My 6yr old son has recently been diagnosed with childhood autism, they said he will most likely live a "normal" adult life. The occupational therapist said his main sensory is deep pressure, for him to have a release he needs pressure against himself, this can be from hugging something tightly, stamping, pushing etc.
Recently, he has started grabbing children round the neck, even with the dangers explained to him and being disciplined it hasn't stopped him from doing it. I'm worried he will end up isolated in school, even his brothers are starting to fear him and how he will be. Today, the school also said about reducing his school day as they don't want to exclude him, but I'm worried doing that will have him thinking that if that's what he needs to do so he doesn't have to go to school then he'll do it more often. I've purchased items to try and help with this, including a vibrating snake, firm pillow, body sack, but I feel that when it happens he's not near these items and his last thought is to go off and find them, so just grabs the nearest child. There are triggers, but not ones that can easily be removed, as it can be a comment a child makes, the way they look at him etc. He also doesn't like to feel embarrassed, so he doesn't accept fault with himself and will blame someone else for whatever he may have done.
I'm just really struggling with it all at the minute, I'm upset for him as I don't want him to become isolated; I'm upset for my other children as I don't want them to fear him and I want them to have the attention from me too; and I'm upset for myself, as it feels like nothing I do works and I'm just letting everyone down.
If anyone has been a similar situation then please share you're advice, I'm looking for any support I can get.
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