Fear of making Friends at work.

Albert White here!!!

 

for about 5 months in i have been at a day program and i still have this fear of making friends. and i have tried so hard. wanted to start a conversation but they didn't want to be bothered. so i went long with my business and sat alone. and i feel very crappy.

give me tips on how i can overcome that fear. should i be myself? 

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  • that fear is there.
    When I come in a new group of people. I don't know how far they accept me. I know my behouviar is oft different.

    So I need always my courage to bring myself between people.

    Now I give presentations who are interesting for people so they come to me. Thats convenient and make is easier to give myself the courage. more and more, I just have the courage.

    my advise, have respect for your own fear. it is difficult to cope with socially being blind for what people without autism see socially. Much we don't see. And oft we come in awkward situations by reasans we can't cope.

    hope you are maybe a bit better in social situations then me. but stil for every person with autism its difficult terrain.


    But then you are looking for friends. don't look for them in groups of loud speaking people.
    Do you have a interest, hobby or are you christian ?
    I'm a christian, so I searcht for a church where they quite easy accept people who are bit different. this gave me possibility to meet people. and now many years later I have valuable friendships out of this.

    so my advise, go to a place where something is happining what you like. and try to make friends there.

    third, when you know in your family young children. speak with them and parents about making friends and look when children see friends. they are still learning te social stuff. when I was a child I had no eye for what was happening between children. I was no part. now I m an adult I can easily see what little children do and learn in social situations. an learn a lot while watching.
    I had 2 children myself an lots of young people in my family so this was for me important way to get social information.

    way of my children. watch movies about feelings and communications. for me childrenmovies. and speak about the social situations. how do they react. how do you feel in that situation? and so on.
    I did this with my children. both my children think also autistic style.

    good luck with making a friend. hope you meet some people who are really nice.
  • that fear is there.
    When I come in a new group of people. I don't know how far they accept me. I know my behouviar is oft different.

    So I need always my courage to bring myself between people.

    Now I give presentations who are interesting for people so they come to me. Thats convenient and make is easier to give myself the courage. more and more, I just have the courage.

    my advise, have respect for your own fear. it is difficult to cope with socially being blind for what people without autism see socially. Much we don't see. And oft we come in awkward situations by reasans we can't cope.

    hope you are maybe a bit better in social situations then me. but stil for every person with autism its difficult terrain.


    But then you are looking for friends. don't look for them in groups of loud speaking people.
    Do you have a interest, hobby or are you christian ?
    I'm a christian, so I searcht for a church where they quite easy accept people who are bit different. this gave me possibility to meet people. and now many years later I have valuable friendships out of this.

    so my advise, go to a place where something is happining what you like. and try to make friends there.

    third, when you know in your family young children. speak with them and parents about making friends and look when children see friends. they are still learning te social stuff. when I was a child I had no eye for what was happening between children. I was no part. now I m an adult I can easily see what little children do and learn in social situations. an learn a lot while watching.
    I had 2 children myself an lots of young people in my family so this was for me important way to get social information.

    way of my children. watch movies about feelings and communications. for me childrenmovies. and speak about the social situations. how do they react. how do you feel in that situation? and so on.
    I did this with my children. both my children think also autistic style.

    good luck with making a friend. hope you meet some people who are really nice.
  • Engage those you want to be a friend, Smile, Make Eye Contact and Listen to what they are saying then restate what they said with a question. So that you are invoking them to talk about a subject they are interested in engaging in. Try to keep the conversation going by inquiring and encouraging them to elaborate on what they are talking about and if you can adding in something you have an interest in that relates so they begin to ask you questions.
    I am autistic myself and have found it hard to also make friendships as I often lack the ability to do what I am speaking of. But htis is what has been conveyed to me through a counseling on improving on my own social skills.